Everyone grieves the loss of a loved one in their own unique way. Nevertheless, we all follow some basic patterns intrinsic to loss. Grief is a natural and normative process as survivors come to accept the painful realities of death of a loved one including our beloved pets (who may be considered both family members and friends).
According to authors Ken-Del Vecchio and Nancy Saxton-Lopez, (The Pet Loss Companion, 2013) feelings of doubt and even guilt may perpetuate circumstances. Do not allow others to trivialize your sense of loss by making such statements as “It was only an animal” and you can always buy a new one”.
Many well-intentioned acquaintances can be less than sensitive to your needs. During this challenging period, it is important to remember your most important task is to take the very best care of yourself.
It is not unusual to experience moments of guilt in the review of your actions to love and care for your dear animal friend. You may ask yourself “Did I do enough for my pet”? It is important not to lose sight of the fact that you loved your pet the very best way possible and had to make some tough decisions in light of presenting circumstances. Also, do not loose sight that
Depending on the unique circumstances, it is both ethical and humane to consider euthanasia as a compassionate means to avoid unnecessary pain and suffering. Be gentle with yourself during this difficult time period.
Acknowledging Your Grief: It’s essential to acknowledge and validate your grief. Just like any other significant loss, the death of a pet can bring about profound feelings of sadness, anger, and confusion. Allow yourself to feel these emotions without judgment.
Routine and Self-Care: Maintaining a routine and engaging in self-care activities can be helpful. This might include exercise, healthy eating, or hobbies that bring you joy. Taking care of your physical health can positively impact your emotional well-being.
Creating a Memorial: Consider creating a memorial or tribute for your pet. This could be a scrapbook of memories, a dedicated photo album, or planting a tree in their honor. Such activities can help you process your grief and keep the memories alive.
Seeking Support: Reach out for support from friends, family, or support groups who understand the bond between a pet and its owner. Sometimes, sharing your feelings with others who have experienced similar losses can be incredibly comforting.
Feeling overwhelmed by the loss of your beloved pet? You don’t have to go through this alone. Schedule a free initial appointment with Don Barry, a compassionate licensed social worker and grief counselor, to find the support you need during this difficult time. Take the first step and call 630-408-4018 or Email Don Barry today.
References: The Pet Loss Companion by Ken Dolan-Del Vecchio and Nancy Saxon-Lopez. (2013).
Gray, T. (2018), 15 Myths about Pet Loss, Psych Central. Retrieved on April 2, 2019 from https://psychcentral.com/lib/the 15-myths-about=pet-loss/